Sunday, July 14, 2013

What the press don't comprehend. James Gandolfini died because of his addiction

The National Enquirer had stories about James Gandolfini's wild partying days. The truth is he was an addict and he admitted that too the Enquirer several years ago. He also said he is now clean and sober no more drugs and heavy drinking. As I have pointed out many times that once an addict always an addict. James stopped his alcoholism but became a food addict. When you quit one addiction another will take its place. You will have to gravitate towards something else in order to calm your unquiet mind. Remember from my book "Treating Addiction" and from past posts as I point out the facts that your addictive mind will never be fully well. You are never fully cured. James Gandolfini was 300 pounds the day he died. He also had 4 hard liquor drinks and 4 other weaker alcoholic drinks along with a double order of fried king shrimp and fatty goose liver. James did not have his addiction under control and with all the success from The Sopranos and future programs he was under contract for he was rolling in the dough. So his worries were few and he had plenty of money to pay for his lifestyle of excess.
You see he did not have his addictions under control. Just like the immortal Bill Wilson who quit his drinking and founded AA, he too was on an addict who did not have his life under control. He was a sex addict and heavy womanizer, he smoked heavily and suffered from severe depression. Bill Wilson died at age 71 from Emphysema. So just because you quit your main severe addiction does not mean you are well and worries over. It is even recommended to gravitate toward another less harmful addiction in order to quit your severe one. If you don't choose a new addiction then your unquiet mind in a quest for quietness will choose a new addiction for you. The goal when you quit your addiction is to treat the underlying causes of that addiction to lessen the pull towards the addiction cycle again.  You lessen the addictive pull by treating any underlying psychological disorders, eliminating stress and changing your environmental ques that create havoc on your mind.
Bottom line is this: When you quit your addiction you must have a good support network of friends to lean on and you must figure out the proper daily management regimen to lessen your addictive pull and this way you can live a new life without having new destructive addictions or slips and relapses all the time. Daily management.

Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Addiction Knows No Boundry

This week I will be loading "Treating Addiction" on our website at www.treatingaddiction.info to be viewed for free with ads on each page and the download is only $2.00.
Whether a person is black or white or brown or Catholic or Muslim or Republican or Democrat does not matter. What they all have in common is that they suffer horribly when severely addicted to drugs or alcohol. My life journey going forward (and for the past 19 years) has been to help suffering alcoholics and drug addicts end their suffering and repair their family situation so that everyone involved in their lives can begin to heal.
It just tears my soul apart when I feel other people suffering and through the information I have to offer I hope my vast knowledge can bring comfort. That is my goal. Please take advantage of the love and knowledge I have to give to you, the addict or the loved one of the addict."Treating Addiction" was my  work of nearly twenty years gathering the "right" information dealing with the root causes of Alcoholism and Drug Addiction.

excerpts like this I passionately share with you:


The hope and answers         are right here for you.

You are beginning a new journey forward into a better life, one free from alcohol or drugs. You need to start out by not feeling overwhelmed. Your recovery will be a process of small steps. These steps will lead you to a life that you so desperately crave. In “Treating Addiction” we will get right to the point in all matters involving your recovery. The important key factors surrounding your recovery will be this:

Guilt is normal, learn to let it go.

Do not dwell on all the guilt and regrets you may feel because of things you may have said or done while you were caught up in your addiction to drugs or alcohol. Actually, any guilt you may feel is a healthy sign that you are aware a change is needed in your life. It is good recognizing you want to get well! These guiltful feelings are what motivated you to seek recovery in the first place. Be grateful that something has brought you here.

New people and places are your key to recovery.

You must concentrate on changing your environment to one that is free from the influences of the people and places you associated with when you used alcohol or drugs. They are triggers your mind is programmed to react to which internally influence and temp you to slip or relapse. I will assure you that you will find new and cleaner friends in recovery. These new friends are concerned about your well being and continued recovery. “Treating Addiction” will show you where and how to find these wonderful new friends. Hint: they are everywhere once you get involved in your recovery.

Learn to plan and fill your day properly.

You will learn how to simply alter your daily schedule so you can avoid open and free time. Free time leaves you highly vulnerable to your addiction. When you are sleeping you’re not caught up in your addiction. This happens because your mind is relaxed and pre-occupied with sleep. You will learn to sleep a little longer or even go to sleep a little bit earlier at night. Your schedule and how you plan it is a critical key to your continued recovery. In “treating Addiction” you will learn how to keep fully engaged with a productive life so that you have no time for your addiction.

Be aware of your emotions

Any emotional strains you feel needs to be recognized and dealt with honestly. You will keep an eye on how your mind feels once you have purged all alcohol and drugs from it. If you notice any strains, anxiety or depressive states the you must find a trusted and knowledgeable psychiatrist. You should also go and find a support group to share your problems with so that this will help you receive good advice and feedback. AA/NA is a wonderful place to start.

Recovery gets easier with each new day.

Please know that everyday you are in recovery the process of staying clean and sober will get easier. As your mind adapts and re-focuses it’s thinking, your recovery will become a more accepted and common place thing. Yes, recovery does get easier with each day.

Learn to kickback and observe.

Be humble as you go about your days and kick it back a few notches to observe those around you who are themselves in recovery, because they have a great deal to teach you. Choose an easier road to most situations and be slow to stress, anger and anxiety. Go out of your way to be more mild, just take it all in for a while and do not try to repair your past or yourself overnight. Don’t worry, it will all happen for the better now. Time will heal things, just be patient, you will know when it’s right to work on repairing aspects of your past life.

You will now live life anew.

What you once avoided you will now slowly face, and things you so badly wanted to do with your loved ones and family you will now begin to do. Take it a step at a time as you re-acquaint yourself with your loved ones. They want you to be there with them in mind and in body so they too must learn to have patience as you make your transformation back into their daily lives.

Start setting goals for yourself.

You will have a clearer mind every day you are in recovery and this will allow you to gradually get back to setting and reaching short term and long term goals for yourself. Goals that include better handling of your finances and also learning to find more time to do the things you want and need to do with those who matter most in your life. Simply put, your social life will now greatly improve.

Know too that as you are in recovery, due to your newer clearer thinking, you will notice that good things will just happen. There will now be more good days than bad.

*You will learn how to find more peace and calmness in your life
*You will learn how to tame your un-quiet mind.
*There are wonderful incentives for you to stay in recovery, your well being and your family’s mental tranquility are but one of the main incentives to motivate you into recovery from your addiction to drugs and alcohol.

As you are in recovery you will notice that most others in recovery tend to want to help and advise each other on how to stay clean and sober. As you advance a bit in your recovery it is great for your own sobriety if you too help other addicts looking to get clean. The world of recovery is filled with people helping people.

“whenever anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help, I want the hand of AA to always be there. And for that I am responsible”  Bill Wilson, co-founder of AA

“Treating Addiction” is here to show you why you became addicted to drugs or alcohol and what to do about finding long term recovery.

When you know the reasons for your addiction you can move forward and make the necessary changes to quit that addiction. Through this book you will get an education and an open mind on finding recovery. So please read this book, and re-read it in order to get educated and get well. Just be humble and take a few steps back while absorbing everything. 



Together We will get well. I am by your side.
                                                        Love, John Joseph 

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